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Unity College

Safe Zone Project

 

 

The mission of the Unity College Safe Zone Project is to visibly identify and support those members of the College community who are safe and supportive contacts for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning students, staff and faculty.

 

 

Mission

Project Goals

Definitions

How to be an Ally

Overcoming

Heterosexism

State Resources

Web Resources

Unity Contacts

 

What is Safe Zone?

Unity College’s Safe Zone Project, which is modeled after the University of Southern Maine’s Safe Zone Project, is an effort to enhance the campus climate concerning gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, questioning and ally issues. The general purpose of our Safe Zone program is to reduce homophobia and heterosexism on our campus and thereby make our campus a safer and freer environment for all members of the community, regardless of sexual orientation.  Faculty, staff, and students who participate in Safe Zone training are particularly equipped to serve as a resource for people seeking clarification around issues of sexual diversity.
 

Why do we need this program at Unity College?

 

Many gay, lesbian, and bisexual students, faculty, and staff are nearly invisible on their campuses.  The climate is often uninviting or even hostile.  These conditions foil attempts at fostering student development and growth.  "Safe Zone" is a way for us to reach out to ALL students, faculty, and staff and include them in every aspect of education and community on campus. 

What does it mean when I see the Safe Zone symbol on campus?

The Safe Zone stickers or pins help convey a message that the person displaying the symbol is supportive, trustworthy, and sensitive to the needs and concerns of gay, lesbian, transgender and bisexual people.  In addition, the symbol indicates that within the office homophobic and heterosexist comments and actions will not be tolerated, but will be addressed in an educational, informative, and non-threatening manner.  The symbol is not an indication of a person's sexual orientation -- it merely states that he or she is gay-affirming, or gay-friendly (in other words, an ally).
 

Does Unity College have a nondiscrimination policy? YES!

 

" Unity College is committed to maintaining a diverse community in an atmosphere of mutual respect and appreciation of differences.

 

Unity College does not discriminate in its educational and employment policies on the basis of race, color, creed, religion, national/ethnic origin, gender, sexual orientation, age, or with regard to the bases outlined in the Veteran Readjustment Act and the Americans with Disabilities Act or other protected classes as required by State or Federal Law."  Adopted by the Unity College Board of Trustees on October 26, 2001.
 

Who can participate in Safe Zone?

 

Everyone!! The Unity College Safe Zone Project is intended to be an on-going educational process for the entire community.

Mission Statement

The Safe Zone Project at Unity College seeks to create an atmosphere of understanding, respect, and celebration of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning and Allied students, faculty and staff. The Project will work toward ending homophobia, heterosexism, prejudice, discrimination and negative stereotyping as these relate to the GLBTQA community.

 

The Safe Zone Project is a voluntary opportunity for members of the Unity College community. Volunteers participate in a 1.5 to 2 hour educational program that introduces them to various aspects of the lives and experiences of the GLBTQA individual and community. The program focuses on the issues that GLBTQA people face and how we can be successful, safe and supportive allies.

Project Goals

  • Identify members of the Unity College community who are willing to be safe and supportive contacts for GLBTQ students, faculty and staff.

  • Provide various types of educational opportunities that expand both individual and community understanding of GLBTQ individuals and communities.

 

  • Advise GLBTQ students, faculty and staff organizations in order to create and maintain a sense of community and support among GLBTQ people and allies.

 

  • Provide a library of current resources for students, faculty and staff on GLBTQ topics.

Useful Definitions

GLBTQA: These letters are used as shorthand for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, questioning and allied community. “I” for intersex, “Q” for queer and other identities are often included in this “alphabet soup.” It is important to recognize the various sexual orientations and gender identities in our community.

 

Gay: The word gay is generally used to describe men who are romantically and/or sexually attracted to other men. It is sometimes used to refer to the general GLBTQ community, but most often refers to just gay men. There are many other terms used to refer to gay men, but much of the time they are derogatory, offensive and often painful and should not be used (i.e. fag, etc.).

 

Lesbian: The word lesbian is generally used to describe women who are romantically and/or sexually attracted to other women. This term originates with the female poet Sappho who lived in a community comprised predominantly of women on the Isle of Lesbos in ancient Greece. There are many other terms used to describe lesbians, but much of the time they are derogatory, offensive and often painful and should not be used (i.e. dyke, etc.).

 

Bisexual: The term bisexual is generally used to describe people who are romantically and/or sexually attracted to people of more than one sex or gender.

 

Sex and Gender: It is easy to confuse these two concepts and terms; however, they are different. “Sex” is generally used to refer to the biological sex of a person. “Gender” is generally used to refer to their appearance, mannerisms, and the ways in which people express their gender.

 

Transgender: The word transgender is an umbrella term used to refer to people who transcend the traditional concept of gender. Many feel as though they are neither a man nor a woman specifically, and many feel as though their biological sex (male, female, etc.) and their socialized gender (man, woman, etc.) don’t match up. Some opt to change/reassign their sex through hormones and/or surgery and some change their outward appearance, or gender expression, though clothing, hairstyles, mannerisms, etc. Many people who identify as transgender feel as though they are confined in a binary system (male-female, man-woman) that does not match who they feel themselves to be. If we look at gender as a continuum and not an “either/or” concept, we have a better idea of understanding this issue. (The International Foundation for Gender Education has more information at http://www.ifge.org/).

 

Transvestite: The term transvestite most often refers to males who dress in the clothing of women. The term drag usually refers to dressing in the clothing and styles of another gender for entertainment purposes.

 

Transsexual: Transsexual is often used to describe those individuals who use hormone therapy and/or surgery to alter their sex.

 

Intersex: The word intersex refers to people who, on a genetic level, are not male or female. They are individuals whose sex chromosomes are not xx or xy, or who are born with ambiguous genitalia (the term hermaphrodite was often used to describe intersexuality). At birth, or shortly thereafter, a decision is made as to the sex of the child and surgery is performed in infancy or childhood to “correct” what is seen as an anomaly. (The Intersex Society of North America has more information at http://www.isna.org/)

 

Questioning: People who are in the process of questioning their sexual orientation or gender identity are often in need of support and understanding during this stage of their identity. Many may be seeking information and guidance in their self-discovery.

 

Ally: An ally is an individual who is supportive of the GLBTQ community. They believe in the dignity and respect of all people, and are willing to stand up in that role.

Homosexual: The word homosexual is a scientific term invented in the 1800’s to refer to individuals who are sexually attracted to their own sex/gender. This term is not widely used in the GLBTQ community as it is seen as too clinical.

 

Heterosexual: the term heterosexual was created at the same time to describe individuals who are sexually attracted to the opposite sex/gender. These words are still widely used, though they tend to perpetuate an “us versus them” mentality and a dichotomous sex/gender system.

 

Straight: The word straight is a slang word used to refer to the heterosexual members of our community.

 

Heterosexism and Homophobia: The term heterosexism refers to the assumption that all people are heterosexual and that heterosexuality is superior and more desirable than homosexuality. “Homophobia” is defined as “the irrational fear and hatred of homosexuals.” Both of these are perpetuated by negative stereotypes and are dangerous to individuals and communities.

 

Sexual Orientation: Ones sexual orientation refers to whom he or she is sexually or romantically attracted to. Some people believe that this is a choice (a preference) and others that it is innate (GLBT people are born this way).

 

Gender Identity: A person’s gender identity is the way in which they define and act on their gender.

 

Coming Out of the Closet: The coming out process is the process through which GLBTQ people disclose their sexual orientation and gender identity to others. It is a lifelong process. Coming out is a liberating process, but can be difficult for some because societal and community reactions vary from complete acceptance and support to disapproval, rejection and violence.

 

Queer: The term queer has a history of being used as a derogatory name for members of the GLBTQ community and those whose sexual orientation or gender identity is perceived as such. Many people have begun to use this word in a positive way to refer to the community; they have reclaimed the term as their own. Not everyone believes this and sensitivity should be used when using or hearing it as there are still many negative connotations with its use.

 

Safe Zone: The Safe Zone Project at Unity College is intended to visibly identify those individuals in the College community who are safe and supportive contacts (“allies”) for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning students, faculty and staff.

Overcoming Heterosexism

Heterosexism is the assumption that all people are heterosexual and that heterosexuality is superior and more desirable than homosexuality or bisexuality. Heterosexism is also the stigmatization, denial and/or denigration of anything non-heterosexual. We live in a predominantly heterosexist society and that attitude is used to justify the mistreatment, discrimination and harassment of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning individuals. Many who are GLBTQ also internalize this attitude leading to denial of their true selves/identities, low self-esteem, self-hatred and other issues. There seems to be a direct link between heterosexism and homophobia, the irrational fear or hatred of homosexuals (including bisexuals and transgender individuals).

 

Some manifestations of heterosexism are:

 

Over-sexualization:

 

·        It is thought that GLBT people are only looked upon as mere sexual beings rather than complex people with lives apart from their sexuality or gender identity.

·        Assuming that every same sex interaction is sexual, or potentially sexual.

·        Assuming that GLBT people are interested in someone of the same sex regardless of sexual orientation.

·        Interpreting everything that GLBT people do in terms of their sexuality.

·        Avoiding touching or becoming close to GLBT people in fear they will take it the ‘wrong’ way.

 

Denying Significance – Personally:

 

·        The opposite of over-sexualization by assuming that sexual orientation is not significant.

·        Remarking, “It doesn’t matter to me that you’re gay.” Sexual identity is significant and should matter.

·        Expecting GLBT people not to talk of their relationships as many heterosexual people do, assuming that sexual orientation should not be talked about.

 

Denying Significance – Politically:

 

·        Criticizing GLBT people for making an issue of their sexuality. Remarking things such as, “I don’t care what they do in bed, but don’t tell me about it.”

·        Not understanding that in our culture, which is alternately oblivious to GLBT people, or dangerous for them, sexuality and gender identity is already a political issue.

·        Not understanding that heterosexuality is politically enforced by giving legal rights for marriage, finance and other such things, while legally denying homosexuals the right to marriage, housing, jobs, child custody, etc.

 

Labeling Homosexuality, Bisexuality or Transgender a Problem:

 

·        Being in the mind that GLBT people want or need special treatment. Or believe they all need special treatment because of their sexual orientation.

·        Believing that homosexuality, bisexuality or transgender can and should be cured.

 

Making Invisible:

 

·        Assuming that everyone is heterosexual until told else wise.

·        Always asking women about boyfriends and men about girlfriends.

·        Telling GLBT people they are overreacting when they get upset about the oppression that they feel.

 

Expecting to be Taught:

 

·        Putting the burden of responsibility for education and for working for change on the GLBT person. Not helping or working for change concerning GLBT issues.

·        Forcing GLBT people to take all of the initiative in coming out.

·        Not making openings to come out by acknowledging in conversations the possibility of non-heterosexual relations.

·        Becoming upset that GLBT people are not patient about educating you.

 

Miss-Defining Homosexuality, Bisexuality:

 

·        Confusing bisexuality with non-monogamy; assuming that bisexuality means being involved simultaneously with both men and women.

·        Assuming that bisexuality is fickle or promiscuous, that they cannot commit to a stable monogamous relationship.

·        Mussing that lesbians hate men.

·        Assuming that GLB people want to convert to heterosexuality.

·        Trying to help someone go “straight.”

·        Thinking non-heterosexual orientation is a phase.

·        Assuming lesbians and gay men’s sexual orientation is in reaction to a bad heterosexual experience.

·        Thinking that you have more right then a GLBT person to judge the morality or normalcy or a persons sexual orientation, including heterosexuality.

 

How To Be An Ally

 

There are many different ways of being a safe and supportive ally in the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and questioning community. These are just some suggestions:

 

·         Don’t assume everyone is heterosexual. Be aware that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are present in every part of life, in every community. Almost everyone knows someone who is GLBT, although they may not realize it.

·         Try using gender neutral terms when discussing significant others, partners, spouses, etc.

·         Avoid assumptions and stereotyping.

·         Create an atmosphere of acceptance and celebration of diversity in your surrounding area.

·         Talk to your GLBT friends, families and/or co-workers.

·         Avoid anti-gay, etc. (homophobic or heterosexist) remarks, jokes, statements, etc.

·         Challenge homophobic language and actions that others are displaying.

·         Continue to educate yourself about issues facing gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. If you don’t understand something, look to local or on-line resources, read an article or a book, or participate in discussions related to GLBT issues and individuals.

·         Be willing to discuss issues impacting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals and communities. Do this in a positive, non-judgmental manner.

·         Provide information and referrals of resources for GLBT or Questioning individuals. The Unity College Safe Zone Project does not expect Allies to know everything or act as counselors (unless you actually are a counselor, therapist, etc.). Refer people to offices, individuals and other resources that have the information that they need.

·         Be willing to assist GLBT individuals in accessing support and information.

·         Review your department’s publications. Suggest changes ensuring that documents are inclusive of all sexual orientations and gender identities. If appropriate create publications specific to the needs of the GLBT population (health services brochures, GLBT support materials, etc.). Doing this will show the GLBT and Allied members of the community that GLBT individuals are not invisible, that they are valued.

·         If you are a faculty member or facilitator, include information in your syllabi or handouts that show that you are an ally to all students, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. This can, and should, be done for any under-represented group and can be done in addition to College non-discrimination policies. Provide on-campus resources that are available.

·         Include GLBT issues and individuals into course curriculum. Many historical and literary figures were gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. Use gender neutral or both heterosexual and homo/bisexual examples in math or economics courses. Look at same-sex families in sociology, child development, etc.

·         Incorporate GLBT issues and individuals into staff development. Residence Hall Assistants, Campus Security, Health Care Providers, Administrative Assistants, Custodial and Facilities Staff will encounter GLBT individuals in the course of their work. Their attitudes to students and co-workers who are GLBT will make a big difference in the campus climate and culture.

·         Join the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community to attain and protect civil rights, constitutional freedoms, protections, and other political and social causes.

·        Come Out. Share your experiences as an Ally with others. Encourage them to be Allies.

Who Is An Ally

An Ally is a person who holds the belief that all persons, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity, should be treated equally with dignity and respect. Being an Ally to GLBTQ individuals and their issues is a process of working to develop positive attitudes and creating a culture in which GLBTQ people feel they belong. An Ally works to end oppression in their personal and professional lives; as a result, this can be done in many different ways.

 

Are you an Ally? If you are participating in the Safe Zone Program, you probably are. Here is some space for you to elaborate on what being an Ally means to you. For many it means putting a Safe Zone sticker on their office door, cubicle wall, computer workstation, or backpack. For others it means incorporating discussions of sexuality and gender in the courses they teach or the programs they facilitate. For some it means making a conscious effort to learn more about the lives of GLBT people, the struggle for civil rights, or what they can do to educate themselves further.

Resources for the GLBTQ Community and Allies

Below is contact information for resources, education, and advocacy for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and questioning community.

 

 

Unity College Resources and Contacts:

 

Counseling Center:

   Melanie Mock (x317)

 

Diversity Committee:

   Kate Miles, Chair (x238)

 

Unity College Program Organizers:

  Amy Arnett (x331),

  Pam proulx-Curry (x210)

  Chris Marshall (x254)

  Don Lynch (x288), Jim Reed (x241)

                

State Resources:

 

University of Southern Maine

GLBTQA Resources Program and Safe Zone Project

135 Woodbury Campus Center

Portland, ME 04104-9300

207-228-8235

http://www.usm.maine.edu/glbtqa

 

Portland Outright

Support for GLBTQ youth 22 and under

PO Box 5077

Portland, ME 04101

1-888567-7600

outright@outright.org

http://www.outright.org/.

 

PFLAG Portland

Parents, Friends & Family of Lesbians & Gays

PO Box 8742

Portland, ME 04104

207-774-3441

 

PFLAG Brunswick

782 woodside Road

Brunswick, ME 04011

207-725-6390

shodgdon@blazenetme.net

 

MeGreSS

Maine Gender Resource & Support Service

Jean Vermette, Director

PO Box 1894

Bangor, ME 04402-1894

207-862-2063

megress@tds.net

http://personalpages.tds.net/~megress/

 

BINNE

Bisexual in Northern New England

PO Box 10818

Portland, ME 04101

http://binne.rulesthe.net/

 

Maine SpeakOut Project

PO Box 15303 Portland, ME 04112-5303

207-879-0480

MSOProject@gwi.net

http://www.mainespeakout.org/

 

Student Groups:

 

USM Alliance for Sexual Diversity

Portland/Gorham Student Group

207-874-6596

usmpride@hotmail.com

 

Alliance for Sexual Diversity at

Lewiston Auburn College

ASD_LAC@hotmail.com

 

 

Web Resources:

 

List of US campuses with Safe Zone Programs

 

ACLU Lesbian and Gay Rights Page

 

Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network

 

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

 

National Journal of Sexual Orientation Law

 

Human Rights Campaign

 

Bisexual, Lesbian and Gay Alliance

 

** Much of the information on this handout has been taken, with permission, verbatim from Safe Zone Program brochures from the University of Southern Maine. See the address above for more information about the USM program.